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As we approach the holiday season and the end of the year, it’s time to look back on the past 9 months and evaluate your goals and objectives. Did you really achieve your goals or even some of them? Are you becoming a better person, spouse, partner, or friend? Remember that consistently asking yourself questions is the best way to get the right answers! Here are ten important questions to ask during your self-evaluation.
1. What have been some of your biggest accomplishments this year?
2. Are making more money or making less money?
3. Does the relationship with your partner have the passion and joy you desire?
4. Have you met your fitness goals, or done little to nothing fitness wise?
5. Are you eating healthier? Think what you’ve eaten in last 48 hours-Does that represent the past year?
6. Have you given back to your community in any way?
7. Have you paid down some debt or gone deeper into debt?
8. Have you achieved your important goals and objectives, or are you lost?
9. Have you improved your overall life quality for yourself and your loved ones?
10. When you look in the mirror and think about all you have done this year, do you say “Yes” or “No”?
In order to truly enjoy these last two months of the year and have a joyous holiday, you need to analyze your answers to these ten questions. Your mindset will determine your next steps and a positive attitude helps along the way. The past does not equal the future and you must be determined to adjust your thought process in this way.
There is still time to make an impact in your life and close out the year on a very positive note. Let’s go back to the previous ten questions and create a quick year-end closeout strategy for your life!
1. Maybe your accomplishments were not big, but everyone has small little wins along the way. Think of those little wins in a different light and learn from them.
2. If you are one of the millions of people unemployed in the country it’s hard to look at this question without some level of disgust. This is where you clearly say to yourself that the past does not equal the future!
3. Passion and desire starts with you being present in your relationship. You can be together with your partner and not be present as you are listening, talking, and simply communication. Start today by being present and communicating with your partner-see what happens.
4. Fitness goals are often set at such a high level that when you are not perfect you feel like a failure. Get moving, stop sitting, walk, run, jump and do something physical today. Even some physical exercise releases those endorphins to pick up your mood.
5. If the last 48 hours of food consumption scares you, then compound it over the past year. Starting a diet headed into holiday is many times doomed for failure. Monitor your food intake and think conscientiously about eating healthier. Combined with your physical exercise will keep you focused to start the new year at the next level of a healthier you!
6. Giving back can be most rewarding as the holidays approach. If you have the means, try to give back to your community by making a donation or contributing your time. Many families cannot enjoy the holidays due to poverty, illness, or even being the victim to one of the many natural disasters over the past year.
7. Paying down debt and saving money comes down to focus and discipline. Create a detailed monthly budget as to what money comes in and what money goes out. Scrutinize the detail and look for opportunity to save and begin the New Year on the right foot. Your discipline will be tested when holiday gift-giving time comes. Stay focused!
8. Make sure that your goals and objectives are achievable in the given time. But always remember that you cannot significantly change your life with taking some type of massive action towards that change. Have you done that or are you status quo? If you’ve continued to make the same mistakes during the past year, positive change is unlikely.
9. Improving the quality of your life is directly proportional to you and your loved ones level of happiness. Buying a yacht does not improve your quality of life if you and your loved ones continue to be unhappy. Happiness is a positive state of well-being and contentment. Does money determine your level of happiness?? If you answered yes then you should re-evaluate your priorities!!
10. When you look in the mirror you have to like what you see. See through the physical image in the glass and look deep into your inner self. YOU have to like and nurture your inner self to make things happen. Ever wonder why when you are boarding an airplane and the flight attendant says that if the cabin depressurizes and the oxygen mask drops, you must put the mask on yourself first before you assist a loved one. Take time to care for and nurture your inner self, then you will be able to say YES to that image you see in the mirror.
Bring on the Holidays and an Awesome New Year!!!!!
Michelle Bianco is a New York based life coach specializing in awesome relationships, living your dream and goal setting. She has learned from her own personal challenges but now lives her life by her own design and with laser sharp focus.
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Infertility and the Workplace
August 17, 2011
Anyone dealing with infertility knows what true commitment it is - the emotional and physical toll it takes on your body, your mind, the doctor’s visits, and the financial burden. And as if dealing with infertility wasn’t hard enough now add work and this becomes a dangerous combination to those who cross your path.Most people work because they have to not because they want to. Who goes to work because they love their job, enjoy getting bossed around, and then at the end of the week they are thrilled when they see their measly paycheck? Chances are your paycheck is going towards those uncovered infertility treatments and unless you are independently wealthy, work is a necessary evil.
Now add all of the other things that you need to deal with at the workplace. Should you tell or not tell the boss that you are going through infertility treatments, the never ending doctor’s appointments, and the weekly baby showers for every woman who works for the company except you. It’s fascinating how popular you become and how you are the talk of the office by your colleagues because they monitor your attendance better than your boss does?
Another thing that those fertile women don’t have to deal with is going to your boss and announcing that you are trying to have a baby and the good old fashioned way of doing things isn’t working – can you say mortified? But at the end of the day you have to do what works best for you. Always side with the decision that creates the least amount of stress for you as workplace stress should be the least of your worries.
The baby showers where every woman is pregnant and there is a party every week. Here you are at yet another baby shower wondering to yourself “why in the world am I here and do I even know who this pregnant woman is?” Yet you feel obligated to go to the shower because everyone else is going and you don’t want to come off as a miserable infertile woman.
So now you are able to sneak away from work for your always entertaining doctor’s appointment. You know the place where the medical staff at the office sees you every day but still feel the need to ignore you when you are standing at the desk to check in for your appointment. Yes, ignored because they are in a deep analysis with their co-worker about reality television and they conveniently do not see you standing there! If only these women really knew that an infertile hormonal mess was waiting for their conversation end so they could tear their heads off with their teeth.
Now on to the main event-the waiting room at the doctor’s office. There you patiently sit, watching all the women as they check in for their appointments. The women already waiting to see the doctor are sizing you up, trying to diagnose your infertility issues. “Hmm, what is her story? Old eggs? Bad sperm?” C’mon ladies, you know you have all done this at one point or another. It’s physically and mentally draining process but one thing you need to keep in your corner is humor. Remember when it comes to infertility; you are either laughing or your crying.
The truth of the matter is there is little you can control during the infertility process. But you can control what you tell your boss about infertility treatment. You can control if you want to attend those daily office baby showers. You can also control self –diagnosing those infertility patients as they walk into the waiting room. This is a hard and difficult journey so make your decisions based on how much stress it will or will not cause you. Always remember that laughter is the best medicine, even if it is in the doctor’s waiting room!
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